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January 13, 2005


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You're an amazing woman, Tess. I can't imagine what you've gone through, with your own challenges and then with your children.

I loved a book when I was a child - Karen by Marie Killilea. It was written in the '50's and has a very '50's sensibility, but it's a wonderful book of faith and belief. It's still in print.

I don't want to give trite platitudes, but I'm always inspired by your life and your children and your blog. Thank you for sharing.



You are an inspirational woman with stamina, cheer and the ability to look at the good in ANY situation. Your sharing of such intimate information such as this shows how unwielding you are in the fight for your children's well being. I think we could all learn a lesson or two from you!!!! Thank you for being YOU!!!!!


Oh Tess,

I know I have told you this many times, but I admire you so much. You have been through so much and you give your children everything they need, mainly unconditional love. They are so lucky to have a mom like you.
I'm also so scared of what this year will bring for the boys. CP, brain damage, slow development, Blane not crawling until after he is two and then when will he walk, the severe hearing loss, etc... You know exactly what I mean. I guess we have put on a smile and some makeup under your eyes and go back to being the best moms we can.
I wish I could tell you I felt like everything would be fine with my kids and yours but I can't. But I do know God gave us these kids so they would get all the love in the world.
Tess, you are the greatest mom. One day you will have no worries but screaming children. LOL!!! Best wishes and I will be praying for you.


Tess darling,

I wish that I could come over, give you a great big hug and let you talk about your worries and fears for your children. You are a fantastic mum and you are giving your children the very best thing that you can - unconditional love. Hang in there my friend. I will keep praying for you all.

Mum aka Mo aka Maureen

Ah darling, what a beautifully written blog. It makes me think of the old song, "Love Hurts" which Roy Orbison sang.... I think it was Roy! Your children are so blessed to have you and magnificent Charles as their parents. Love you all very much,
M xox



I wish I had wise words to say, but eh, I'm not that bright. ;)

I know that whatever may lie ahead for your daughter, for all your children, you will face it with dignity, compassion, and much love.

As mothers, we feel immense fear when we learn they may be/is something wrong with our little ones. We want so much for them to have lives easier than our own, lives free from hardships, lives full of good health.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, with your family.

Much love. xoxo

Karen Ritchey


You are such a gifted writer. Your topics are always so interesting. It gives us such a neat look into your lives.
Yes, you will handle whatever comes along, and God will walk with you and your family
along the way.
I love reading what's on your heart. I never tire of it. Thank you for sharing your
lives with us.

Love you,

Auntie Pammie

I remember the day you called me and shared this news with me. I of course wanted to say that there is no way this could happen and that they are wrong. To this day that could be the case. Regardless of whatever the outcome is, Carys is one strong young lady. I tell people about how she beat a 10% survival rate when she had the aspergillosis, and then they see her pictures and see those bright sparkling blue eyes, and they all say "That is one happy little girl, who is so full of life that her eyes shine".

You are an amazing mother and I always am complimenting you on the incredible job you are doing. IF anyone can handle this, you are the one who can!!

Time will tell if Carys has CP or not, no matter what , she is an amazing little girl who has beaten some pretty incredible odds before. I of course will be always wishing the best for you and your family.


This sentence was a revelation to me:

"i know i can handle it. i know i will love them regardless of what they achieve or what doctors discover. i just am weary. and love doesn't rejuvenate, it actually tires me more. because if i didn't love them all so much, it wouldn't matter as much."

Thank you for sharing this - for me you've expressed my feelings regarding my daughter perfectly.

My little girl was not premature but she is severely developmentally delayed and no-one knows why. After 2 years, 2 months I am so very weary. I love my daugther with all my heart. I loved her the minute she was placed on my chest - a tiny newborn - and my love has only grown and grown - despite an incredibly difficult first year and a challenging second one. But the daily hurdles that we face, plus 15 sessions of therapy each week, have worn me down. As you say, if I didn't love her so much, it wouldn't matter so much... but so much of her future is unclear to us and I worry all the time.


If that didn't choke me up this morning don't know what would Tess. Ty's first birthday is Monday and despite the fact that we can't have a party during RSV season, we know what a huge milestone this is and I look forward to a day of celebrating what HAS been accomplished. My heart breaks for the struggle Cary's faces but I know God has incredible plans for her precious life...and yours.


As always you leave me admiring your approach, your honesty, your strength. Here's hoping that the news will be good, that you won't have to deal with those maybes turning into definites.

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