yesterday is over, and today arrived. a new day.
yesterday was bad. a bad bad day. but do you know what was gorgeous? everywhere i turned, there were arms. reaching out to me, encouraging me, loving me.
i returned andrea's phone call yesterday, and when i heard her voice, i got a little weepy. she wasn't at home, but immediately said, "do you need me to come to you?" and i said no. i just needed to get through this myself. i told her i would catch up with her later (and that was my intent).
i went for a little walk, and then came back. at that point sebastian was asking me why none of his friends were at the playground and available to play with him. i sent sebastian to play with the triplets, on the basis that at least with the triplets he can feel like the big older brother and they will think he is remarkable. (which, he is).
i went to the playground looking for the idiotic water bottle that was apparently left there but due to renos the door was blocked off. and i saw tara and katie and susan. i went to talk to them and they smiled at me, and i went to sit down. they asked how i was, and i didn't want to say anything because i knew i wouldn't stop.
it was not my intention to cry, but i did. once on the phone with andrea, once in tara's arms, and again as i wrote to mel.
and then it was okay. magically and wonderfully.
i had a headache, but it was okay.
the triplets, our guests the debocks and i applauded sebastian for his honesty at school and i gave him two packs of match attax. he was thrilled. i was thrilled. i love him. he's my boy.
this morning, i awoke, refreshed and relieved. the crisis was over.
i decided to forgo my usual morning grocery shop and instead hightailed it over to ifc to get a pedicure with tara. a good choice. we chatted and giggled. and then i went to park n shop and spent more $$$ than a small country makes in a year, just so my kids can have chicken nuggets. honestly.
this parenting thing isn't easy.
but i learned a valuable lesson yesterday and was reminded again how wonderful friends are.
and, although i promised myself i wouldn't cry, this email came in (why do my commenters prefer to email??) and it just made me shake my head so i wouldn't.
just read your blog - felt it with you today. S, C, and J they make me want to dance, or run, or get down to their height and play, Seb - he helps me stop and think and look at the world, and sometimes he makes me want to run too - just not as fast as the others (gotta see what's out the window). He makes me want to grow! They all rock babe - and that can only be a tribute to you and C.
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and then there was another email from a mum whose child also has add, and it was so compassionately worded...nothing about putting on my big girl knickers and getting on with it...just all about love.
think where man's glory most begins and ends, and say my glory was, i had such friends." ... william butler yeats
